Hit Netflix series How to Build a Sex Room filmed – Westword | Candle Made Easy

In the hit Netflix show How to build a sex room, a customer of designer Melanie Rose, describes her as “the Mary Poppins of the sex room.” One of the things that makes the eight-episode series so delightful to watch is Rose’s ability to take her clients’ desires (which are sometimes quite opaque) and manifest them in a physical space, an actual space dedicated solely to sex is.

Filmed in Denver with local residents and experts alike, this erotic take on home renovation features plenty of other things for you to enjoy as well as a few how-to guides. Eight takeaways:

1. You need freedom of movement

In the episode where we meet Tricia and Gary, Rose quickly decides that the couple’s bedroom, which they originally intended as a sex room, is far too small to encompass all of their wide-ranging interests. So instead she talks them into a sex shack on her two-acre property, outfitting it with all the fixtures that should have replaced more necessary pieces of furniture like dressers.

This practical issue resurfaces when Rose consults with Heather and Sarah, two lovebirds who live in a van and whose limited space and lack of a proper bed have severely curtailed their sex lives.

The camper van gets a real bed.


Rose enlists the help of van renovation experts at Boulder’s Vansmith to build an inviting bed for the couple. She even manages to fit a sex swing into the mix, with fixed points both indoors and outdoors for mounting the swing, and her creative use of the van’s roof gives Heather and Sarah another place where they (each other ) can explore.

2. Access counts!

In the first episode, Taylor and AyJay ask Rose to build a sex room in their basement. To get there they must traverse a steep and seemingly dangerous ladder (we’re not sure if the passageway qualifies as a staircase). See, we understand that there’s only a limited number of places in any home that you can set up a sex room, and it looks like these two have an older property to top it off. But what happens if one of them develops joint problems later in life or is injured while playing sports? (Or sex?!)

A sex room that requires skill to access will not be accessible to everyone. Or for anyone consistent across multiple decades of life! We hope AyJay and Taylor enjoy many fruitful years of ankle, knee and hip health so they can also fully enjoy their sex space.

3. Your city (yes, yours!) has a lot of resources

From custom made leather sex swings to ass print furniture, this show is packed with sexy and fun novelty for all tastes.

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Custom furniture designer and photographer Tyler Martin works on a piece for a client.

Tyler and Tiffany Martin from TADAM Photography

Rose takes her couples to bondage workshops at Studio Friction, introduces them to high-end sex toys at Awakening, hires local photographers at TADAM Photography to take intimate boudoir pictures for the wall exhibit, and enlists the services of Tyler Martin (by TADAM Photography) Create a custom coffee table for Lisa, the single lady in the last episode. (We’re not 100% sure where Rose gets the custom sex swing leather from, but Colorado Saddlery seems like a good choice.) She even finds a couple of pro Dommes, including Mistress Nicci, to advise her.

The point is, you don’t have to drive to the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco to find your alternative sex resources. They’re hiding in plain sight, right in Denver.

4. Furniture is your friend

The Tantra chair keeps appearing on the show for a reason: It’s smaller and more versatile than a proper bed. Rose also enjoys introducing couples to the St. Andrew’s Cross and creates several custom versions for rooms throughout the series. When building a sex room, furniture can solve most (if not all) of your problems. And in some dungeons, furniture is basically the entire event!

5. Light, Camera (optional), Action!

Rose has two big rules for building a sex room. Number one: the bed must be front and center. The second is to create a mood. She does this by paying close attention to her client’s lighting and texture preferences.

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Features, textured wallpaper, furry throws, and other sensual touches make their way into the spaces, but the lighting is really where the spaces start to shine. Adjustable lighting can illuminate what you’re about to get (if exhibitionism is your thing) while dimming the experience for the event itself. However, unlike furniture, changing the lighting requires a little more effort. The chandelier with cocks or tits all over it is interchangeable, but it’s not quite as easy as putting a spanking table in storage.

6. Contractors are everything

Melanie Rose has Mike, the stalwart general contractor to help bring her vision to life and who is worth his weight in gold. The customers themselves have Rose who implicitly understands what they need. To build a sex room you need a team of good people.

Kathy “Kiki” Sloan leads the Property Dominators real estate team at boutique brokerage VIP Real Estate. (Fun Fact: Soriya, who appears in sex room she is an agent on the Property Dominators team along with her boyfriend Lester and five other members of her polyamorous family.) Sloan specializes in helping members of the kink, BDSM, and ethically non-monogamous communities find and sell homes, that are perfect for her.

“I had a friend who bought a new build,” she explains, “and during the build there was this constant discussion about where the dungeon would be and what that would all look like.” One beautiful thing about the new build is that you Being able to add your own, um, gear before hanging the drywall. Sloan says she’s also curated a panel of contractors who can handle tasks like installing hardpoints in a prefabricated home so heavy items — like sex swings — can be accommodated.

“A lot of this show is about relationships,” notes Tyler Martin, furniture designer and photographer, “and that relationship to each other and to oneself is, I think, reflected in the artistic approach that’s taken.”

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An image from a boudoir photoshoot by TADAM Photography.

Tyler and Tiffany Martin from TADAM Photography

Boudoir photography studio owner Martin says that much of TADAM Photography’s work is about “helping people connect more to how they express themselves and their own voice, rather than a pre-packaged one idea of ​​what it ‘should’ look like”.

7. Any aesthetic can be sexy

How do you build a sex room for a self-proclaimed “top” who’s into farmhouse chic? Sounds impossible? It’s not – you just need the right attitude.

Rose’s “mood boards” help capture the high-level aesthetic and sentiment her clients are looking for, and then she uses her creative powers to somehow manifest it. With Tricia and Gary’s sex shed, she actually manages to make the farm-loving aesthetic downright, um, hot.

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Tricia and Gary’s sex shop.

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Raj and Ryan’s room is a fabulous example of Rose’s skills: Raj prefers a bohemian look, while Ryan is very techy. Rose has created a space that contains all the elements that appeal to Ryan’s tech-savvy soul (sound and light and a cute wall fireplace) while also having a strong focus on the sentimental-romantic side of things.

8. All good things must come to an end

One day you will have to sell this house with a sex room. Sloan notes that while Denver has a “great community” when it comes to kink and ethical non-monogamy, “from a business standpoint, it makes it harder to sell what’s on offer” if the current owner insists on keeping this sex space intact.

The problem is the basic economics of supply and demand. There is a lot of demand for real estate, but not much for specialized real estate of any kind, be it a bespoke grow space for a cannabis club or a beautiful sex room tailored to the current owner’s wants and needs. In order to get the highest and best price on a home, a seller must market the home to the largest possible number of buyers—and there just aren’t that many buyers looking for a home with a sex room built for another couple (or group, maybe).

“The fact is that when it comes to real estate and the pool of buyers, the number of buyers who want a house in a certain area is getting smaller. Then the pool of buyers for a house at a certain price becomes smaller. And then you add ‘having a secret sex dungeon behind a bookshelf,’ and the pool of buyers practically becomes nothing,” Sloan explains, adding that she’s been lucky enough to help vendors unload their furniture and other removable sex items and redesign the space to design as a “bonus room” and then market the house as a “regular” offer.

In 2019, a “sex dungeon house” in Pennsylvania briefly went viral when it was put up for sale, but there were no takers. When it was listed again in 2021, the realtor removed the furniture from the basement before snapping new property photos … but still no takers.

“Some people said, ‘I love this house, but I can’t buy it because everyone knows there’s a dungeon in the basement,'” explains Melissa Leonard, the realtor who listed the house. “Ultimately, I don’t think it was appropriate for a suburban family.”

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